At what point do you think you need to get away from this person? What’s the situation? Is it always the same with this person? Take the time to notice how you feel when you are speaking to different folks. Do you feel lifted, neutral, drained, or annoyed (which also drains) after even a short time with them? At what point does it happen?

Very often there is something being mirrored back to you that you can learn from.

I could feel drained if I get a call from someone and realize that I had not completed what I said I would in the allotted time. I could own my lapse and fess up leaving me neutral and, in some cases, lifted. Maybe everyone under-determined how long it would take and the completion expectation was just more than you…well, expected. Another approach is where I make excuses for it and feel drained.

I could just be in a hurry when someone who I normally enjoy chatting with, is taking too long to share a story so I become impatient and become short with them. Am I being upfront from the beginning, saying I’m pressed for time? The learning is in the mirror by saying what I need so others can provide the space I need to be on time. Is it possible that not being open could cause me to feel drained?

Am I spending unnecessary time with folks I just don’t click with? If it’s family, sometimes you need to suck it up and other times you don’t. What do you need for your well-being? If it’s someone you must work with, is there an opportunity for an honest conversation so you can both get on the same page? I’ve seen these difficult relationships after I worked with only one change dramatically where both people become very friendly at work. No, they all didn’t become away from work pals, but the new level of respect and empathy went a long way for their work relationship.

Look for the learning opportunities for both you and the other person in each situation where you hold up a two-sided mirror between you. When we can learn together vs. teach others, we have an incredible opportunity to affect the world. 

Warmly,

Tammy Rowland

www.TammyRowlandCoaching.com

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We are called for Purpose

What are you called to do?, But what purpose are we referring to?, Let’s think about that? are you doing what you love to do??. Do you feel like a champion every time you take another step forward. That’s what you should be doing. 

Living with purpose

Sometimes, I catch myself slipping, falling behind, letting go, feeling overwhelmed.
You know that feeling you get when everything seems so dark, so exhausting, it makes you walk in circles with a path that is unclear. You’re thinking of how you can fix things, but you just don’t know where to start. Or do you?

Here’s the deal, our society is built within a system that feeds political gains. No this is not about being a conspiracy theorist, this is simply understanding how government policies, banks, and the ultra-rich have set up the structure. We spend our lives working to pay bills, monthly rent or mortgage, car payments, insurance policies, paying down credit card debt, spend 2 hours in traffic and for what, to take one 2-week vacation each year, maybe get in 1 or 2 hours a day of quality time with the family. Think about it, does this make any sense? Does waking up in the morning have to be targeted towards a to-do list. Or would you rather doing it for the purpose of something bigger than yourself.

Create a Game Plan

A Game plan is what you just need to figure out what are the HOW’s and the WHY’s. You absolutely need to have that clear, in writing, create a game plan the way an architect would create the floor plan for the contractor who then directs the builders. And the follow-through, build, and repeat. Or a soccer coach who creates a game plan for the team, you know what I mean. Don’t do it for the money, the money will find its way to you so don’t worry about that. You just need to put a few things in place to do what you love and help people while doing it.

Now there will be ups and downs and not everything will work according to plan but that’s fine, that’s when you re-adjust and try again. it doesn’t matter if you failed and hit the ground 10 times as long as you get up the 11th time. You don’t give up, you don’t give in, you adapt, compromise and overcome. The process is oftentimes quite humbling but the outcome will surely change lives.

Develop a strategy

If you’re looking to discuss strategies, content, or programs you want to develop. look for a team whose agenda is to help. Someone who is willing to work with your budget and offer solutions.

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